One fact about being in a relation is the speed at which the
light and spark evaporates. Sometimes a partner fails to see it coming, it
hurts more in such situation. Anyways life is a mixture of ups and down. I
believe am the best person to write on how to deal with break ups because I have
been and sure knows where and how it pains. The person who makes life right and
funny suddenly tears out your heart and steps on it. Ouchh!! But wait, sure
enough you can get back on your feet because am pretty much bouncing now. I
unconsciously followed some steps to get right back and I will be sharing them
here.
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LET IT GO; Did I say it is possible? Damn! It
hurts knowing the good time spent together is out of the window. No more
cuddling, the kisses, hug and romance. Don’t think too much of reliving those
memories you created together. First thing to do is to get rid of all contacts.
Delete your partner’s phone number and those messages that still give you hope.
The more you see the number or the messages you received from your partner the
more you seek to try again. Understand that it is over..I said OVER!!!
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SPEND TIME WITH FRIENDS
AND FAMILY; You must stop feeling sorry and step outside. The big secret
is that someone among your friends and family must have passed through a worst
break up, however the same person is now in a better promising relationship. Unless
you step out and meet such people whose stories are similar to your present
problem but are now passed it, the more time it will take to heal. Friends at
this time are more loving and caring, give them a chance to fill the moments
for you.
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KNOW YOU ARE SPECIAL;
If your partner left you for another person the first thing that pops into your
head will be “The new guy is definitely better than me”. I thought about that
too but who dwells on such rubbish? I took time to access myself and sure was
far better than the other guy she left me for. I was a straight A’s student in
college, a motivator, at least I tried
my best to get her serious with her academics back in college, commanded
respect, loved by many and for once never cheated on her. The new guy was a complete
opposite of the above. This story is meant to push you out of self pity. Come to
think of it, every individual is special and talented. You are special and
someone out there is definitely dying to taste a bit of your qualities.
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DEVELOP YOURSELF;
My kitchen was a mess for months because I missed her presence. I cared less
for grooming and all I did was wish for change. The change you need now my
friend is to stand up and take care of yourself. You must look good for the
next person coming in, did I say next person? The mistake we make at this
period is simply our blindness to the fact many are seeking to take up the
vacancy. The truth is this, someone out there has wished things to turn out the
way it is now so that he or she will have a chance with you. If you think your
ex is the only person interested in you then think again. This is the best time
to try new dresses, hairstyles, shoes etc. Radiate confidence because tens of people
out there are dying to get their chance with you.
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DON’T THINK YOUR EX IS
THE PERFECT PERSON; you are probably thinking where and how you will
find someone exactly like her. The truth is, you might not find someone exactly
like her, the odds are low if there is any possibility because each person is
unique. But wait before you try hanging yourself, have you ever pondered that
someone out there is better than her. Yes! You heard me, better than her in all
areas. There are definitely tons of people out there who are better than her in
those qualities you crave for. If it is the way she takes care of the house or
the way she talks or how good she is romantically, I bet you someone is 50% better
out there.
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CHANNEL YOUR ENERGY TO
OTHER THINGS; There is something you like doing, let’s say work, leisure
or a talent. There are things you’ve always wished to do but have never really
thought strongly on doing them, well now is the best time. Instead of filling
your days with regrets fill it with productive activities. Whatever you do in
this period usually has a higher chance of neatness and turnovers. Try this, if
you are a photographer simply direct your energy to photography and you will see
the pictures created will be better than when you were hooked. Mine was
directed into academics and writing, believe me when I say I created my finest writings
and best grades after my break up. Get busy, do something you love but have never
gotten a chance to do. Put more zeal in your business or academics etc. and you
will see results.
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FISH, MORE FISH;
There are lots of fish in the ocean. Millions of fish of all kinds and all you
got to do is to cast your net and harvest. Imagine it this way, your former
partner prevented you from seeing the best, fatty, attractive, delicious,
salivating and choicest fish in the ocean. Goodnews is that he or she is no
more. It is now left for you to choose the best.
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OPPORTUNITY TO LEARN;
Believe me, you learned one or two things from the expired relationship. No
knowledge is a waste and you will succeed better in the next relationship armed
with the takeaways you took along. See the present as an opportunity to equip
yourself for the next person who I believe will be the right person.
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LOVE AGAIN; I know
it is not easy but come on you got to move on. Love again because the beauty of
life is love.
We at sexkitchen love you…….. You
must stand up and move!!
