Thursday, 29 September 2016


Toils and events of our regular days most of the times knock out that intimate moment we crave to share with our loved ones. A study in eastern Africa showed that sex deeper meanings and benefits are obscure in that part of the world. A recent research carried out showed that about 72% of married couples in west Africa see sex as non vital in survival of relationships. Just like one participant puts it “I don’t see anything in it except for procreation. We are no more making babies so I don’t see any strong need for it. Occasionally we engage in sex and that’s it. A lady participant has this to say “coming back from work, the chores need attending to and the children are throwing their troubles too. Am just a dead wood when it’s time”.

Once marriage sets in we found out that active and fulfilling sex life begins to dwindle as each day goes by. Couples tend to see it as time killer and only indulge in sex whenever they can. In fact they look at sex with no enthusiasm, this leads to unsatisfying and boring sex life.
Are there really benefits in a healthy sex life? Is there anything worthwhile you and your partner can derive from steady and constant sex life? Regular sex brings tons of wonderful benefits into your marriage. There is no need to match the brake pedal after the last child pops out.

First and foremost is the binding power of a healthy sex life. Talk about what keeps couple in place even after a disturbing fight, sex plays a major role in gluing broken pieces. This bonding is a subconscious phenomenon. It is that which keeps bringing you back to your partner even when you don’t want to see them again.

Reduces the risk of heart diseases; Don’t give me that look. A study at Queens University Co-authored by Dr Shah Ebrahim, Phd, researchers found that regular sex of at least 3 or more times reduces the risk of heart complications in males. The women are not left out regular sex with their husbands helps in keeping their blood pressure in check.

Sex boasts immunity; according to a research in Wikes university, regular sex with the same partner boasts the immune system. The body produces the antibody immunoglobulin A which help prevent cold and other infections.

Sex burns fat and keeps you in shape; who doesn’t know it takes more than just talking to have sex. A lot of muscles keeps contracting and relaxing causing the burning of calories in other to fuel the action of the moment. You can go running up and down a hill trying to slim down, stay on the treadmill for 20 minutes, such exercises are ignorant of fun. The truth is that a vigorous healthy sex can burn an equivalent amount of calorie as staying rooted on a treadmill for 15minutes. Incorporating a healthy sex life in your relationship can go a long way in knocking those calorie off. There is still another twist in constant healthy sex. Sex causes the production of testosterone which contributes to the overall strength of bones and muscles.

Stress reliever; Come on! I bet you don’t think about the losses of the day’s work when pacing inside her. The actions of the moment completely blocks out worries, it keeps you active only for the moment. In the man’s semen is the hormone prostoglandin which is deposited along with semen into the vagina. The prostoglandin helps suppress stress related hormones of your partner.

Pain relief; Just moments before orgasm the hormone oxytocin sky rockets to five times it’s normal amount. The hormone oxytocin causes the release of endorphins which in turn relieves pain.

Sex is very much important, you just need to add more spice to enjoy it.

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Sunday, 25 September 2016

Pillow talk

After dinner you pushed your weary self to the bedroom, without delay you get into her and then vola! You drift  off to sleep.  She doesn’t sleep then, how can she? She spends the remainder of her steaming time gazing at the ceiling or better still gazing at the mammoth  sleeping beside her. Most times she can’t help wonder the essence of turning her on, satisfying yourself  and letting her wonder in the woods of imaginations looking for a way to calm herself.

What is Pillow talk? Most times pillow talk can be mistaken for dirty talk, but who cares so far the intent of that moment is achieved. What couples out there want is a fulfilling time with each other. We all love to talk trash with our spouse but most times we do it at the wrong time. If only we can do it at the right time then a proper spice to our love life we will  be adding.

You want to tell her how much you love her, how sexy she is, how her perfume is so inviting; do so when your hormones are rearing to go just before sleep.   Wait! You  can even discuss that music you guys love listening  to or  better still the last romantic movie you guys watched together. This discussion are not rushed but slowly and gently they are pressed home. You guys can take this moment before sleep to talk about the day’s event. A bit  caressing will be good too.  Office Gossip can also do the two of you  good sharing  a bit of it. Note! This is not the normal talk you guys engage in  during active day time  so I  don’t expect any of you getting into wrong emotions. In fact a good pillow talk releases stress and helps keep the mind relaxed.  This is also where trust is reinforced each day. This suppose to be that quiet moment which causes the moon to stand still and the wind losing it’s power.

It is alarming that most couples don’t even know much about each other especially in Africa.  Not many African couples engage in pillow talk and that’s why romance seems dry in marriages. Come on dear you better stop envying the pillow talk scenes on screen. You can create it in your relationship, there is no magic about it. Get her to tell you how much she cherish you and you also telling her how you can’t  live without her.  You guys can even compose love peoms right there on the bed.  Have you ever heard of love peak? I doubt you have. Try adding pillow talk into your  love life, you will definitely feel rejuvenated each morning and so eager to face the new day.  The truth is, your partner will never lose value in your eyes when pillow talk is utilized to it’s maximum.

Pillow talk continues after sex. Guys be warned, your spouse always wants you to talk her to sleep.  She prefers your cuddling and your sweet  voice than your snores, so don’t go drifting off to sleep so quickly.

You should add this spice to the  cooking...........