Sunday, 23 October 2016


I think we can add few surprises for the ladies. Have you heard about the saying ‘Men think with their balls’? If I say the phrase is wrong hope you won’t seal me in an empty barrel and bury me in an ocean. Well I think I dare you to do that.

Sometimes it is just the balls that do the thinking and sometimes the brain takes the jury’s seat.
What I mean is that a man can get arousal without an erection and the balls can get full and ready without the brain participating. Speaking of this David .H. Barlow. Ph.D., he said “you can have one without the other. This cannot be debated because its true and it keeps happening to our men. But there is one truth which we believe should come to limelight. Well the truth is already there out in the world but is doubted by some. Men are totally moved by what they see than women.

 In fact her touch can wait because he is already fired up to go all out without touching.

How about dressing to kill the balls he has. Hey! Be warned that an abuse of this key can attract rape or other physical abuse. Just try to dress sexy at home and see the magic. Most of the ladies out there know this but the majority ain’t dressing to the balls of their lovers. He doesn’t want you tough most of the times to get all wired up, you can do better by getting him to see those curves.

Next is an area most women don’t understand. They sit waiting for the man to make the move or just say, become aroused.  When men are shown videos or pictures of aroused women they feel aroused than when they are shown videos or pictures of ladies who weren’t excited. Do more of the biting lips, and seductive moves. Do the ‘I want you walks and talks; have you ever seen a rocket gather momentum before launching out to orbit? He will get all worked up that he won’t keep back.

We must note the rules above don’t hold all the time but does most of the time. On an individual basis we all have those sets of things that get us pumped. I believe it is left for the ladies to dig deep, be observant and an inquiring mind to get the alarming truths.

Your dirty pants might be the magic he can’t resist, a particular hair style too can count. Ouch these are outrageous right? But it’s true, you can never tell that one thing he can resist.

That’s it for now……….try the recipe and see how he will want you.

Tuesday, 4 October 2016


A friend came to me one day disturbed. He couldn’t understand a simple mystery and he thought I might help. Some nights ago he came home late. What happened was this; After the day’s work he decided to spend the evening with his friends. This was in fact something he never dreamt of doing but sometimes peer pressure is more fierce than the nagging of a wife. His friends took him to a club and you know how things usually turn up. After the fun died down he took his bath and headed home. Getting home his wife was awake and worried. He walked into the room and saw a caring wife whose look was full of worry. My friend began to paint pictures of different settings in order to fool his wife just like any man in his shoe will do. Funny enough, the woman waited patiently till he dropped the last word then she sneered and walked away.

“How did she know I lied all through?’’ my friend asked. She always knows when am lying, sometimes I feel she has me wired up somehow.

I couldn’t help wondering at the obvious. Many men had in time past wondered how the female folks detect lies effortlessly.  She will gaze at the man as he lies through his teeth, this gaze gives the male folks a wrong notion. It causes them to believe she is buying the cock and bull story he’s saying  then at the end she smiles, sneers or hisses. At this time it dawns to him that he has been a fool all this while, a new tactics more harder than lying will now come into play which is finding a way to right his wrong. The truth is simple, why waste time and money appeasing your wife after lying when you can avoided the pain all together.

I know male folks out there wants to know why it seems useless to lie to their wives. Well sit tight and read all through to know that tiny secret.

Women are experts in reading body language unlike we men that attend series of lectures on body language deciphering, they do this without even knowing. Well that’s their luck, in fact it is a big advantage for them since it takes strength and will for a man to keep to his spouse.

Women posses what we call women's intuition. They have the ability to pick out very minute details. You might not have wondered why she picks out that tiny stain on your shirt's collar, why she sees your tie a bit out of place, she knows you are about getting annoyed even before you notice it.

According to a research by psychologists at Harvard University showed how women are more perceptive than men when it comes to body language. A short film of a man and woman discussing without sound was shown to a group of men and women. They were told to decipher what the couples were saying by watching their expressions. This experiment showed that about 87% of women who watched the short film were able to correctly explain what was being discussed in the short film. Only 42% of the men were able to get it correctly.

Again, surprisingly we fail to see the unconscious lessons mothers learn from their new born babies. In the first year or two, mothers depend only on their abilities to decipher the body language of babies before they can be of help to them. They know when the baby is cold, warm, hungry, uncomfortable, etc. At this stage women are already well equipped, they can see beyond what a high percentage of men can normally see. No wonder they call the male folks babies.

Magnetic Resonance Imaging brain scans (MRI) shows that women have between fourteen and sixteen areas of the brain for evaluating other’s behaviour while a man has between four to six areas. This makes the female folks better in evaluating human behaviours. Have you ever wondered why they know more colours than men who are not into artistic ventures? At the boutique she sees the better dresses and combination than you can see.

Women are able to attend to more than four unrelated things at the same time effortlessly . She can be on a call, at the same time listening to a gossip going on in the next room, adding sugar to flour and watching television. They are perfect at multi tasking and this is another skill they perfect while caring for their babies.

Most time men complain women talk a lot and usually about unrelated topics. You don’t need to complain anymore, your wife is good at multi tasking so get on with it.

Now you know why you can’t come lying to her expecting her to buy it. She will perfectly pick out the tinniest lipstick mark on your face or notice a change in fragrance. Or better still, she can tell when your gestures and spoken words are conflicting. She can notice when you perform defensive gestures when you tell her how much you like something or non defensive gestures when you tell her how much you abhor infidelity. One thing you must know is the fact she can easily pick out differences in your spoken words and gestures.

One thing is sure you don’t need to lie to please her. If you can avoid infidelity in your marriage then you do not need to fear her high keenness  for details.

Cook this up in your relationship, I believe it’s a nice recipe you can savour.

Sunday, 2 October 2016


Most women of reproductive age have lost interest in sex as they often experience pains and discomfort during coitus. This boils down to unhygienic genital conditions exhibited by such women. For a better and active sex life and to keep in line with the idea that prevention is better and more cheaper than cure, it is pertinent to maintain adequate hygiene in order to avoid some discomfort during sexual intercourse and to keep the Vagina in a good condition as your Vagina needs nothing more than the very basics of care.

All women should be concerned about their vaginal health. A healthy Vagina is naturally acidic and contains rich quantities of beneficial bacteria that help fend off infections and maintain a normal pH level. A healthy Vagina will also secrete small amounts of discharge to keep itself clean, much as saliva is produced to help cleanse your mouth ;hence Vagina is a self-cleansing machine. Any interference with these normal conditions may result to Vagina irritation and infection.

When it comes to feminine hygiene, it's important for women of all ages to be very meticulous and consistent with maintaining the cleanliness of their genitalia. Maintaining feminine hygiene is important to your overall health because in addition to preventing odors, itching, and discomfort, practicing feminine hygiene can also prevent bacterial infection from occurring prio to a good sex life. In some cases bacterial infections may lead to sterility, disease, cancer, and other health problems. To maintain your feminine hygiene, you must bathe regularly, develop healthy habits in regards to your menstrual cycle, and wear fabrics that allow your Vagina region to breathe.


1.AVOID TIGHT PANTS, SHORTS OR PANTIES MADE FROM SYNTHETIC FABRICS AND REMOVE WET, SWEATY BOTTOM CLOTTING AS SOON AS POSSIBLE: Certain types of fabrics and styles worn close to the genitals can increase heat and moisture, potentially leading to bacteria overgrowth infections. Wear cotton underwear during the day and avoid thongs. Try not to wear tight-fitting clothing, and endeavor to change out of wet swim-suit and sweaty work out clothes as quickly as possible because it can cause bacteria to multiply and increase your likelihood for getting infection.
To give your sexual organ the treatment it deserves, avoid tight pants, shorts or panties made from synthetic fabrics as these can reduce the air circulation around your Vagina and cause it to sweat;this can increase your chances for odors and infection which may endanger your sex life. Wear loose panties that allow for air circulation or that are made from natural, breathable fabric such as cotton. Also wear thigh-highs or pantyhose made with a cotton crotch to reduce the Vagina sweating caused by nylon and other synthetic fabrics.

2.WASH YOUR VAGINA WITH CLEAN WATER AND AVOID USE OF HARSH CLEANERS AND SOAP: As part of its function, your Vagina actually cleans itself by producing its own natural discharge as part of it self-cleaning process but despite the fact it's a self-cleaning machine, a good feminine hygiene should be exhibited. Washing your Vaginal region with Clean Water will help prevent your Vaginal region from becoming irritated or infected due to exposure from harsh chemicals found in antibacterial or astringent soaps.
Always rinse your Vagina with fresh water, then dry off immediately with Clean towel to prevent moisture build-up. Excessive washing or using harsh cleaners and soap makes the Vagina vulnerable to infections that cause odor or discomfort.
Always wash your Vagina area after sexual intercourse as body fluids and residue from condoms and other intimate products can cause infection, irritation and odor if not removed from your vaginal region following intercourse. Use of harsh soaps can also affect a healthy PH balance of the Vagina, thus should be avoided

3.WIPE YOUR GENITAL AREA THOROUGHLY: After bowel movement, wipe from front to back to avoid bacterial contamination of the Vagina and to lower the risk of bladder infection. This will help keep your Vagina area dry and clean throughout the day. Use soft, white, unscented toilet paper that does not contain dyes or other irritating chemicals. Wiping from front to back after experiencing a bowel movement will prevent fecal matter from coming into contact with your Vagina, which can cause bacterial infection.

4.CHANGE MENSTRUAL PRODUCTS FREQUENTLY: Menstrual products such as sanitary pads and tampons should be regularly changed during your period because when these menstrual products become soiled and are worn for long periods of time, they can cause you to experience foul odors and increase the risk of infection. Use menstrual products that do not contain scents or dyes, as these products contain chemicals that can be harmful to your health.

5.AVOID DOUCHING AND ALSO EAT A BALANCED DIET: Normally, Vagina PH is about 3.8 to 4.5. Douching  should be avoided as it can interfere with the Vagina's PH levels, reducing its acidity and setting the stage for bacterial infections. If your Vagina has strong or unpleasant odor ; a douche will only cover up the smell without curing the problem that's causing it. Also a balanced, nutritious diet and drinking plenty of fluids are key to Vagina and reproductive health. Infact, certain foods may be effective in treating vaginal health problems. Cranberry juice and yogurt and and can potentially help prevent yeast infections and aid in their treatment. Soy products also help in treating Vagina dryness as they contain a weak form of estrogen that can aid natural lubrication. 

6.PRACTICE SAFE SEX: Using condom during sex helps to protect against sexually transmitted disease such as HIV, genital herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, genital warts and chlamydia. Some of these diseases like HIV and genital herpes have no cure. And others like human papilomavirus that causes genital warts, are also known to cause cancer or lead to other diseases. Thus, condoms should be used and changed during sex as well as when switching from oral or anal sex to vaginal sex, to prevent the introduction of harmful bacteria into the Vagina. Avoid petroleum jell (like Vaseline) and other oil based products as the can cause latex in condom to breakdown and also might cause infection.

7.TREAT INFECTIONS WHEN THEY ARISE :three types of Vagina Infections are common :yeast infection, bacterial vaginosis, and trichomoniasis. Yeast infections are caused by several types of fungi, while bacterial vaginosis is caused by bacteria overgrowth in the Vagina. Trichomoniasis is sexually transmitted. Treating these infections is crucial because not treating them can lead to unpleasant, painful, and serious reproductive health problems. All three can be treated with oral or topical medications.

Thursday, 29 September 2016


Toils and events of our regular days most of the times knock out that intimate moment we crave to share with our loved ones. A study in eastern Africa showed that sex deeper meanings and benefits are obscure in that part of the world. A recent research carried out showed that about 72% of married couples in west Africa see sex as non vital in survival of relationships. Just like one participant puts it “I don’t see anything in it except for procreation. We are no more making babies so I don’t see any strong need for it. Occasionally we engage in sex and that’s it. A lady participant has this to say “coming back from work, the chores need attending to and the children are throwing their troubles too. Am just a dead wood when it’s time”.

Once marriage sets in we found out that active and fulfilling sex life begins to dwindle as each day goes by. Couples tend to see it as time killer and only indulge in sex whenever they can. In fact they look at sex with no enthusiasm, this leads to unsatisfying and boring sex life.
Are there really benefits in a healthy sex life? Is there anything worthwhile you and your partner can derive from steady and constant sex life? Regular sex brings tons of wonderful benefits into your marriage. There is no need to match the brake pedal after the last child pops out.

First and foremost is the binding power of a healthy sex life. Talk about what keeps couple in place even after a disturbing fight, sex plays a major role in gluing broken pieces. This bonding is a subconscious phenomenon. It is that which keeps bringing you back to your partner even when you don’t want to see them again.

Reduces the risk of heart diseases; Don’t give me that look. A study at Queens University Co-authored by Dr Shah Ebrahim, Phd, researchers found that regular sex of at least 3 or more times reduces the risk of heart complications in males. The women are not left out regular sex with their husbands helps in keeping their blood pressure in check.

Sex boasts immunity; according to a research in Wikes university, regular sex with the same partner boasts the immune system. The body produces the antibody immunoglobulin A which help prevent cold and other infections.

Sex burns fat and keeps you in shape; who doesn’t know it takes more than just talking to have sex. A lot of muscles keeps contracting and relaxing causing the burning of calories in other to fuel the action of the moment. You can go running up and down a hill trying to slim down, stay on the treadmill for 20 minutes, such exercises are ignorant of fun. The truth is that a vigorous healthy sex can burn an equivalent amount of calorie as staying rooted on a treadmill for 15minutes. Incorporating a healthy sex life in your relationship can go a long way in knocking those calorie off. There is still another twist in constant healthy sex. Sex causes the production of testosterone which contributes to the overall strength of bones and muscles.

Stress reliever; Come on! I bet you don’t think about the losses of the day’s work when pacing inside her. The actions of the moment completely blocks out worries, it keeps you active only for the moment. In the man’s semen is the hormone prostoglandin which is deposited along with semen into the vagina. The prostoglandin helps suppress stress related hormones of your partner.

Pain relief; Just moments before orgasm the hormone oxytocin sky rockets to five times it’s normal amount. The hormone oxytocin causes the release of endorphins which in turn relieves pain.

Sex is very much important, you just need to add more spice to enjoy it.

Try this important recipe, we at sexkitchen believe you need it.

Sunday, 25 September 2016

Pillow talk

After dinner you pushed your weary self to the bedroom, without delay you get into her and then vola! You drift  off to sleep.  She doesn’t sleep then, how can she? She spends the remainder of her steaming time gazing at the ceiling or better still gazing at the mammoth  sleeping beside her. Most times she can’t help wonder the essence of turning her on, satisfying yourself  and letting her wonder in the woods of imaginations looking for a way to calm herself.

What is Pillow talk? Most times pillow talk can be mistaken for dirty talk, but who cares so far the intent of that moment is achieved. What couples out there want is a fulfilling time with each other. We all love to talk trash with our spouse but most times we do it at the wrong time. If only we can do it at the right time then a proper spice to our love life we will  be adding.

You want to tell her how much you love her, how sexy she is, how her perfume is so inviting; do so when your hormones are rearing to go just before sleep.   Wait! You  can even discuss that music you guys love listening  to or  better still the last romantic movie you guys watched together. This discussion are not rushed but slowly and gently they are pressed home. You guys can take this moment before sleep to talk about the day’s event. A bit  caressing will be good too.  Office Gossip can also do the two of you  good sharing  a bit of it. Note! This is not the normal talk you guys engage in  during active day time  so I  don’t expect any of you getting into wrong emotions. In fact a good pillow talk releases stress and helps keep the mind relaxed.  This is also where trust is reinforced each day. This suppose to be that quiet moment which causes the moon to stand still and the wind losing it’s power.

It is alarming that most couples don’t even know much about each other especially in Africa.  Not many African couples engage in pillow talk and that’s why romance seems dry in marriages. Come on dear you better stop envying the pillow talk scenes on screen. You can create it in your relationship, there is no magic about it. Get her to tell you how much she cherish you and you also telling her how you can’t  live without her.  You guys can even compose love peoms right there on the bed.  Have you ever heard of love peak? I doubt you have. Try adding pillow talk into your  love life, you will definitely feel rejuvenated each morning and so eager to face the new day.  The truth is, your partner will never lose value in your eyes when pillow talk is utilized to it’s maximum.

Pillow talk continues after sex. Guys be warned, your spouse always wants you to talk her to sleep.  She prefers your cuddling and your sweet  voice than your snores, so don’t go drifting off to sleep so quickly.

You should add this spice to the  cooking...........

Sunday, 3 July 2016


 I can remember vividly a conversation I had with a friend. He came panting into my room, it was way back in high school.
“Miras! I don’t understand Kate. I could barely touch her without her moaning and asking me to stop.”
I did not have an answer back then. What we did was to sit gazing at the ceiling, that was some years back
Anyway we can kick straight into today’s recipe. What is an Erogenous zone? Oh! You remember those places that tingles you, sending you to the next world when you are touched on these spots? Well they are those parts that are sensitive to sexual touches.
Don’t get excited, there are no exacts spots. I can tell you on my own findings that merely rubbing the palms of certain ladies kick them off. Another area that seems to work in most ladies is the rib side, in fact it worked in 48 out of 50 ladies it was tried on. You can try cooking this; gently rubbing the rib side and gently moving towards her back area rhythmically will quickly put her into the mood.
Remember at the beginning I established a fact that what works for Jane might not work for Ruth. When you talk about erogenous zones it comes with the ability to be observant, noting those areas that sweeps her feet off.
Ok let’s talk about the well known erogenous zones in the female body. First is the clitoris, who doesn’t witness that orgasm as the clitoris is stimulated. We know that by merely stimulating the clitoris a woman can reach orgasm without penetration. The truth is; stimulating other erogenous zones like the rib will certainly take her to cloud 9.
Stimulating the nipples can serve both the man and the woman. The nipple is hyper sensitive and will definitely kick the two of you into the mood.
But what should I do when she moans stop? Well! It is a challenging question because at that moment she wants you to keep on going but at the same time she is finding it hard controlling the sensations. I can remember interviewing a girl on the same issue. Her answer was point blank, orgasm was near fetched at those moments.
Oh come on don’t be surprised guys, it is not all about pounding her as much as your strength can that will take her to mount Everest. The question is what should I do if my wife is among the stop specie as she nears orgasm. Well, go slow, slow and slower if need be but don’t stop. Remember that negativity of most women is mostly positive answers.
As for the man, he still remains the general in the battle field. Who doesn’t know that when a general becomes too confident and chooses to go head first into a battle he becomes an easy target? Come on ladies! Rub his guns and he will explode. You know what I mean? The penis is heavy on sensitive nerves, it is a good spot to start. You can experiment if you are a Wild West type; sucking, breast fuck, feet fuck, just get his penis worked on and he will be there.
Remember this recipe is strictly for married people……….

I will stop here today, cook this and enjoy. Remember my posts are for married couples.